Dialectical behaviour therapy, my journey

You have probably also been faced by a situation where you need to ask someone for something or when I have to say no to a person? For me these situations often feel stressful. Sometimes so stressful that I need days in advance to mentally prepare and after the situation I find myself sweaty and shaking. It would be great to avoid these horrible situations altogether! Unfortunately that is not really a sustainable solution.     I recently read something relieving. Apparently it is a skill to maintain relationships and self-respect while being confident in asking for things or saying no. Yes please!  I had never thought that one could treat social behavior as skill, but it makes sense I guess? This magical skill of better tomorrow consists of two key abilities, 1) analyzing social situations and 2) determining one's goals. Sounds so … doable. But what does it mean in practice?  In a nutshell it is mindfulness in a social context. In which, to be honest, maybe the...

Heya, and happy new year ^-^ Have you  tried doing something while worrying about it might seem out to others? Quite some time ago, when I was a young adult, I was faced with the horror of the dance floor. The thought of dancing in public got my gut all twisted up and occasionally made me skip social events. If I did get to the dance floor, I would be awkwardly moving my legs from left to right and back while feeling very much out of place. Then once, after a firm refusal to join the others, I was watching the dancing crowd. I was particularly fixated on people who seemed to be one with the music. That was so mesmerizing and I was curious, so I tried to analyze their strategy of dancing. There were no patterns to be seen. Some seemed to have obtained the ability to move completely chaotically, yet so perfectly. The only common denominator seemed to be their enjoyment of the motion and the music. I decided to give this a chance, to just focus on enjoying the motion and the music. In...