Dialectical behaviour therapy, my journey

Emotions exist for a reason . They have an actual functional role in our daily living.  The functional role of emotions is to motivate us to do things. They motivate us to fight and flee, care and share. You know that feeling just before presenting in front of an audience? Or preparing to meet your crush? Or joining a new group of people? Or stepping into a dark alley? These are all situations where our emotions are signaling us. Signaling us about the importance of our performance or a potential danger. Emotions do not just happen to exist. Emotions are something far more logical (wait, what?) and complex. Emotions are an evolutionary alarm system triggered by signals of importance. And what is a signal of importance changes from person to person. Each of us has different emotions towards the same situation. This is why one can learn much about oneself by capturing their own emotions as they happen. Understanding which emotions are taking place and why, will allow us to gaze dee...

Heya ^^ Asking for things or saying no can stir up a lot of anxiety. For me personally, I can feel unworthy or not deserving of the thing I need to ask for.  This time I wanted to share my experiments with the most practical tool from the book so far. The d.e.a.r.m.a.n system. In summary, it is a checklist that you can lean on when asking for a thing or saying no. Interestingly having a protocol can give confidence for asking or for saying no. I have found that the best part of this technique is exactly that, it gives you confidence and makes you more confident in asking what you need or saying no to a thing you want to refuse. D - describe what is the situation, but just the facts that can be observed For example, I have (legal) vacation days remaining E - express, about how you feel and think For example, I really need a vacation right now and I think now is a good time to have it. Just a side note, I am really hesitant to bring up my own feelings. However, other people won't kno...