Dialectical behaviour therapy, my journey

Eyo ^-^ Mindfulness contains tools to take control of your mind. Describing allows you to become separate   from your thoughts and feelings. Describing also allows one to deal with the feelings of others as well as external pressure. You can't control what happens externally, but you can take control of what will follow internally. ~ Mindfulness is a set of tools to claim the control of your mind. These tools are  1) Wise mind skills, the  2) how  and the  3) what  skills. Wise mind is your guide and connection to your values, while how-skills deal with how to practice mindfulness and what-skills are what to actually practice. Sometimes it can be easier to understand the whole instead of trying to understand each of these two (how/what) aspects separately. What-skills,  observing ,  describing  and  participating,  build onto each other, like steps on stairs. To climb to the next one, you need to stand on the previous one.  ~ T...

Heyy ^-^ I wanted to continue some on the mindfulness by describing the other two aspects of it. Mindfulness can be seen to consist of three sets of skills. 1) Wise mind , described in the previous post , and the 2) how and 3) what skills. How-skills are about how to practice mindfulness and what-skills are what to actually practice. The how and what skills are quite intertwined. For me it was easier to understand the whole instead of trying to understand each of these two aspects separately. What-skills are observing , describing and participating . The what skills build onto each other, like steps on stairs. To climb to the next one, you need to stand on the previous one. To be able to describe, you need to be able to observe, and to be able to participate, you need to be able to describe.  ~ I will start with with the base of the stairs: observing , and doing it along the how, which is non-judgmentally, one-mindfully and effectively.  Observing non-judgmentally , is...

 Hello ^-^ The first thing I immersed myself with was mindfulness. Mindfulness helped me to get rid of my stress and calm myself. Mindfulness is a bit tricky to explain, but I will do my best to convey my understanding of it. In short, mindfulness could be described as the mastery or control over your own mind. However, in my experience, mindfulness was not quite as unallowing and as disciplinary as this description might sound. One helpful way to see the mindfulness, is to think of your mind as a young puppy being enthusiastically all over the place. This would be your mind being 'mindless' and to become mindful would mean to learn the skill of patiently guiding, steering and motivating your mind in a kind manner, as you would do with a puppy. Mindfulness can also be seen as a practical skill, with the notion that it is not enough to know the components, but it is important to bring them together by practice. I think a good parallel can be drawn to drawing. Similar to the skil...

 Heelo ^-^ I am the many of nu and this is my journey through self-therapy to mend my broken mind. I guess I have always been breakable? There has always been something wrong with me? Maybe I never learned to be kind to myself? Sounds more depressing than it actually is, I assure you :p Something happened during my twenties. I let another person stab me where I was vulnerable and now I am scarred for this. This scar in my mind forces me to jump to painful conclusions. I will look at people and interpret that they think I should not be allowed to exist, that I am useless. I often get anxious for not getting things done in a blink of an eye. This anxiety, I have come to understand, is learned. Learned from being repeatedly told during my early adulthood that I was unwanted, had no value, was useless and lazy, if I did not achieve things within a given schedule. No matter how Ludacris this schedule was. I want to believe in a world were every person born has value. I want to end this ...